Dating an anxious man
I didn’t understand why he would start thinking these things randomly throughout the day.I was watching as he physically made himself sick over the ideas pacing his mind.He Might Interpret Neutral Things In a Negative Way Depression often works like a game of telephone where no one wins. The person with depression would love to receive this kindness as it is, but their depression has set up a series of negative filters.By the time the kind words reach the person with depression, the filters have mutated it into something negative such as an insult or affirmation of their negative beliefs.Sometimes they were simple like, did he lock the door?Others were more serious; how will he have his check in time to cover rent, did he make the right career choice, what kind of father will he be?
If his response seems like an attack, resist the instinct to be defensive.Also realize you are not guaranteed to encounter these issues when you date someone with depression. Whether you ask or deduce it after months of dating, there will be a point when your partner discloses they deal with depression.It’s a crucial moment in the relationship, so be sensitive and do not judge.Maybe that sounds stupid, but when you’re an easy going, free spirited person, anxiety just doesn’t makes sense in everyday life.He never actually told me he suffered from anxiety; most people who do suffer don’t realize it.