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If you are living together, there are some key things to work around.
When you’ve paid off a debt or joint savings have reached a certain level, then have a treat and reward your good work.
I’m not saying that you wouldn’t like him spending money on you, but it has nothing to do with love or that butterflies-in-your-stomach type feeling. A lot of guys fall into the trap of measuring their self-worth based upon how much money they make, what kind of job they have and their overall financial situation.
It’s an easy trap to fall into, considering that everything in our society and media encourages this type of thinking.
When I feel so overwhelmed and suffocated by my own problems I go completely cold. All I want is to get out of the life situation that I feel is so unbearable, in this case it happened to be my job/financial situation. The hardest thing in the world can be to accept that ultimately they need to solve it for themselves.
The best way you can help is to just be present with them and not Let me make a distinction of what I am NOT saying here: I am not saying to reassure him. I am not saying to feel sorry for him or to pity him. I’m saying just be willing to be there with him and give him the space to just be.
On the other hand, if you accept him, he’ll probably see things for the illusion that they really are.
He’ll (eventually) see that it doesn’t really matter and he’s making an emotional issue out of nothing.
He just recently began sharing these financial problems with me and I know it’s the reason why he’s been asking me out less than when we first started dating.
Not everyone is present enough to see through it all, but the whole job/money and ego/identity crisis is a big illusion that men suffer from.
I’m not saying that guys should be cheap, but you and I both know that the amount of money a guy spends on a date isn’t going to change how you feel about him in your heart.
The bottom line is that if you realize that everything is fine and there is no “problem” here, it will be a helpful energy for him to be around.
You don’t need to talk about it, you don’t need to help with it, you don’t need to reassure him…